Did you know that your donation to Safe House Stellenbosch, as a company or as an individual, qualifies as a tax deduction? This means that you will receive a 10% rebate at the end of the financial year.
Safe House, unlike some charitable organisations, is a registered Not for Profit (NPO) Public Benefit Organisation (PBO), which means that it can issue the Section 18A Tax Certificate.
The Section 18A Tax Certificate allows you to claim back your donation from SARS at the end of the year. In a nutshell, your donation will not really cost you anything BUT will make a huge difference on the lives of the women and children who are seeking shelter from domestic violence.
So what do you need to do?
- Decide how much money you would like to donate. It could be one lump sum or a small monthly amount that adds up over a 12 month period.
- Make sure that the amount is not more than 10% of your taxable income as the deduction is only valid on 10% of your taxable income.
TIP: Friends of the Safe House donate just R100 per month (or a little more) by setting up a recurring stop order their bank accounts.
- You will receive a receipt which you will need at the end of the tax year. So keep it.
- Notify Safe House of any change of address or particulars before financial year end..
- Safe House will provide you with a Section 18A Tax Certificate at the end of the financial year.
- Submit this tax certificate together with your other tax returns in order to claim your 10% rebate.
Any questions? Please contact us.
A loving parent, be it a mom or dad, has a unique and crucial role in the lives of their children. Those moments and times when a gentle touch is needed, staying up late at night with a child that is sick, helping them cope with rejection and helping them find their place in the world. Defining their child’s strengths and helping them grow in these areas. There are challenging tasks in the best of circumstances, so you can imagine how hard it must be when the home is an unsafe and volatile place due to domestic violence.
But, every child needs a loving parent, and while we recognise that many dads fulfill this role for their kids, we know of many broken women dig deep and find immense strength to rise above their circumstances for the sake of their children.
As individuals kids need to be nurtured, but there are certain common needs that universal to children worldwide, and it’s here where mothers often put their children’s needs above their own.
In this post we want to put the spotlight on our mothers, who play a special role in family ecosystem.
Instinctively mothers provide for their children’s needs.
- Every child needs to be nurtured: Mothers can give much care and nurturing, this enables a child to grow and develop. Our souls flourish when we are being nurtured and cared for.
- Every child needs a mother who meets not only physical needs, but spiritual and emotional needs. Talking, listening and just being there when a child needs you. To provide support and understanding when they need it. A child needs to know that they are a priority in your life.
- Moms provide love and care which is important early on in life and can later mean more confidence in other relationships.
- Security: Every child needs to feel safe and be able to trust that their needs will be met. When a child is scared or lonely they should know that they can always turn to mom. A mother providing love, trustworthiness and belonging will help the child to develop high self-esteem, to express emotions more easily and to be more socially competent. Mothers provide boundaries and discipline. Being there during disappointments and failures.
- A child’s uniqueness. Every child has their own unique personalities, a mother knows embraces and celebrates their unique qualities. A child needs to feel accepted just as they are.
- Love: Being generous with your affection, giving more hugs and laughter. Moms can create homes filled with peace and love so that this can carried over to the next generation.
- A mother and child have a one of a kind connection. A maternal bond as well as a bond formed by time, commitment, love, caring and patience. A mother can create an emotional connection with their child, knowing that mom is a safe place to come when needed.
Being a parent is hard, it’s a 24 hours day, 7 days a week and 365 days a year job – forever. We salute all parents, but because it’s Mother’s Day Month, we especially play tribute to the mothers who play their part with grace despite hardships. You were chosen, remember that.
A MOTHER’S LOVE
There are times when only a mother’s love
Can understand our tears,
Can soothe our disappoints
And calm all of our fears.
There are times when only a mother’s love
Can share the joy we feel
When something we’ve dreamed about
Quite suddenly is real.
There are times when only a mother’s faith
Can help us on life’s way
And inspire in us the confidence
We need from day to day.
For a mother’s heart and a mother’s faith
And a mother’s steadfast love
Were fashioned by the angels
And sent from God above.
Safe House Stellenbosch is a shelter for abused women. If you want to support the work we do, please consider making us a permanent beneficiary on your banking portfolio and donating just R100 per month. We are a registered NPO – and every cent makes a big difference in the lives of the women and children who find themselves under our roof.
We also welcome volunteers and donations.
Everyone recognises the fact that Safe House is a haven for women who seek shelter from domestic violence, but what most do not realise is that for every woman who walks through our door, two children, on average, are at her side. We often find ourselves in the situation where we house more children than adults. This is why we have expanded our counselling services to Play Therapy for the kids [read more here] and why we make every effort to make Safe House feel like a home.
These past school holidays our loyal volunteers stepped in and we held a school holiday programme for the kids. Fresh air and loads of creative activities really brightened up their Easter holiday break.
A volunteer came to repair our trampoline just in time for the school holidays and the children loved getting rid of their energy and bouncing around.
Here are some pictures of the several fun activities the kids got to enjoy.
The kids also went to our local park and played on the swings and other apparatus in the park.
Our volunteer teenagers brought his PlayStation and the kids had so much fun playing video games.
The children played with different colourful play dough and they made nice shapes with the dough.
The children had fun sessions colouring pages with volunteers
The children made funny paper faces.
They decorated heart shaped cookies with icing and decorated their cookies with different colours.
There was lots of time spent getting creative with Legos.
They painted eggs with beautiful paint colours.
If you would like to become a volunteer, contact us. Donations are always welcome, and if you are touched to become a regular donor to Safe House, please consider becoming a Friend of Safe House.
April is child abuse prevention month, many children around the world are in danger of abuse and neglect at home, in school and in the community. It is a time to shed light onto how important it is for families and the community to work together to help prevent child abuse. During this month, and in fact, throughout the year, all communities should be encouraged to share and promote awareness across the country.
But what can we, you and I, do to make a difference?
- Everybody can learn more about the warning signs of child abuse.
There are a number of signs for both physical and emotional abuse.
- Child seems afraid to go home after school
- Often wears clothing that covers the whole body even in hot weather
- Child is constantly fearful or anxious of doing something wrong.
- Acting inappropriately with behaviour extremes.
- Child shies away from touch
Read more on some warning signs here.
- Report the abuse to the authorities if you suspect a child is being abused.
People who have jobs dealing directly with children such as a dentist, teacher, doctor, therapist, minister of religion to name a few are compelled to report any incidence of child abuse or neglect. Once it is decided that there is an actual case of abuse there are places to go and make a report; the police, a designated child abuse organisation or the Provincial department of Social development.
- Give your support to legitimate programmes.
Anybody can help the cause against child abuse by donating to a non-profit organisation that is focused on preventing child abuse.
- Become involved as a volunteer.
You can provide essential support in the various programmes and events offered at the different organizations. This is a way where you can meet a lot of new people and play a vital role in helping save a child.
You can also sign up to be volunteer at Safe House, read more here.
- Promote various programmes.
You can talk about the programmes you are involved with at your school or workplace and ask speakers to come by and give an informative talk about the issue. Educating the children, parents and teachers about prevention strategies will help to increase awareness and in so doing help to keep the children safe.
- Organise a fundraiser.
In your community you can help to raise funds and awareness. Create a ladies morning tea event, with the ticket sales going to a non-profit organisation that helps with the issue of child abuse.
- Teach children about their rights.
They are special and have a right to be safe. Children aware of this are less likely to think the abuse is their fault and will then more likely report the offender.
- If a child does confide in you…
Listen closely and assure the child that they did the right thing by telling an adult and that they are not responsible for what happened to them.
- Distribute a resource guide or brochures for parents.
- Involve local businesses.
Create a campaign with local businesses to raise funds. An example: have the local bakery make some cupcakes to sell and collect donations.
Children are our future and very valuable, by helping and working together we can ensure that they are protected and kept safe. Becoming involved as a parent or individual of the community, you can make a difference.
Child Welfare SA: A professional body that provides protection and makes a difference in the lives of children in South Africa.
Website: www.childwelfaresa.org.za | Contact: 011 452 4110
Childline: A non-profit organisation that helps to protect children from all forms of violence.
Website: www.childlinesa.org | Contact: 0800 055 555 (help line)
Safe House Stellenbosch is a place of safety for women and children who flee domestic violence. You can make a HUGE difference by becoming a Friend of the Safe House and making a small monthly contribution to our registered NPO. We also welcome donations.
Being a unique part of the off-field entertainment
Miss Varsity Cup and Miss Varsity Shield has become a highlight that makes the Varsity Cup such a major success. Young ladies from the various participating campuses are dominating the initiative by entering the competition to showcase their inner beauty by mixing a significant amount of passion for sport and giving back to their community through rugby.
The 12 Miss Maties Varsity Cup finalists have been Inspired and mentored by the reigning Miss Varsity Cup Joy Mashego.
Kay-Dee Adams, one of the 2017 finalists, spoke on behalf of all the girls.
“We are blessed with the opportunity to be involved with the “Keep the Aggro on the field” campaign backing our boytjies and more specifically being involved with the L’Abrie de Dieu Safe House, shelter for abused women.”
[Read about how Maties Rugby takes lending a hand at Safe House seriously]
The finalists have been visiting the Safe House and pampering the women, making them feel beautiful again and reminding them of their worth. All agree that it was a humbling experience that touched each of them deeply.
“We saw in the eyes of the women what it meant to be brave, to stay strong and to carry on.”
Maties most beautiful ladies are excited to be actively involved in Safe House, and part of their contribution towards the Safe House currently is helping to find sponsors and donors for the Safe House’s Building project. They are also running a raffle in order to raise funds towards the needs of the shelter.
“We are so happy to see the dreams and goals of a selfless initiative which counsels and supports abused women and children within our Stellenbosch region, are progressively becoming a reality and the community.”
A message from the finalists:
“To the strong and courageous women at L’Abrie de Dieu: Take those words from Rupi Kaur, ‘The world gives you so much pain and here you are making gold out of it.’ We want to say: You are incredible, you make this world a little more wonderful. You have so much potential and so many things left to do. Better things are coming your way, so please hang in there, you can do it.”
“Trying to move mountains everyday as a team with Godfidence, makes us not only fighters but more so overall winners.”
Safe House wishes to say a BIG thank you to these inspiring young women for everything they have done. You are all beautiful inside and out, and we wish you all the best in your future.
Inspired to become a volunteer? Perhaps you want to make a donation? We’d love to hear from you. You can become a Friend of the Safe House by committing a small monthly amount, of your own choosing, to our work.
Varsity Cup Finalists 2017:
• Annemika Kearney
• Tamsyn Jack
• Retlametswe Losaba
• Tenielle Jonkers
• Kay-Dee Adams
• Nicola van der westhuizen
• Daniella Jacobs
• Carla Truter
• Lethukwenama letsoalo
• Yemurai Muchenje
• Victoria Leigh Parker-
• Kanja van der Merwe
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Abuse can come in different forms and has a direct effect on the person being abused, but what about those who witness these violent events? Especially children or even babies who are constantly living in an environment where there is abuse happening. They grow up in a space that is constantly filled with anxiety and tension.
There are certain beliefs that people understand about abuse that are misguided or wrong. These beliefs; only help to make the problem worse and allows the abuse to continue.
Here are a few truths about domestic violence
- Domestic violence is not a private matter to be dealt with secretly. It is a crime and we all have the responsibility to speak out against it.
- Very young children are very prone to the effects of witnessing violence and abuse.
- Any form of abuse and violence is not an acceptable way to treat somebody else, nobody ‘deserves’ that kind of treatment especially when trying to resolve conflict.
- Babies are affected; even in the womb the baby can become distressed because the mother herself is under stress. Babies may have a low weight when born or can result in premature birth. Babies can be inconsolable and irritable as a direct result of living in an abusive environment.
- Young children have very good memories and can recall traumatic events, so they do not forget over time. They will remember witnessing the abuse when older.
READ BOUT OUR PLAY THERAPY COUNSELLING FOR THE KIDS OF THE SAFE HOUSE
- Domestic abuse can occur in families of all races and in both the rich and poor. Location is also not a barrier and domestic violence can happen in urban or rural areas.
- Violence is not the only form of abuse adults can use; manipulating or using emotional abuse towards their children for their own ends without considering their child’s needs or rights.
- Children will usually not tell anybody about any form of abuse they are witnessing or experiencing. They are too fearful or do not understand what is happening.
- Every child who witnesses abuse is a victim of the abuse. The effects of witnessing abuse, has a profound and long lasting effect.
Witnessing violence can have long term effects on children who experience this and these children are more prone to suffer from anxiety, depression and other external displays such as fighting or bullying.
A child that eyewitnesses the abuse or violence will have inappropriate ways of trying to resolve conflict and thinks this behaviour is okay.
General effects of abuse in children who witness violence:
- Problems with sleeping
- Appetite is affected
- Blame themselves for the problem
- Aggressive behaviour, anxiety and depression
- Problems and difficulties with learning and at school
- In adolescents, absence from school, poor behaviour, may start to use drugs and a chance that they may have earlier sexual activity.
What can be done to help an abusive situation?
The first step is to make sure that the abuse does not remain a secret and is not a shame. Having a trusting relationship; outside family, doctor or other professional you can talk to about the abuse. You need to obtain help from a Counsellor/Therapist or Social Worker. There are also special domestic violence organisations in your community, which will help you and Safe House in Stellenbosch is one of them.
Are you a victim? Contact us.
If you would like to support the work we do, then Volunteer or Donate. Friends of the Safe House pledge a monthly contribution of their own choice via stop order – and that makes a big impact.